She wants it, but doesn't want it. It's as if she wants to eject me from her life, completely, but she wants none of the other consequences. She insists on divorce but refuses to discuss with me a parenting plan
I could have wrote that myself.
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Fast forward a while - she filed for divorce, and became very angry. It was the oddest thing to me - this is what she wanted, or seemed to want, all along, and now she was going to get it. She should be glad. Relieved. But yet she was noticeably MORE angry and erratic, blowing up at little things, venting, very hostile.
You sound so clear in what you write. When i read your situation it sounds so logical. When I see mine, I am foggy. It is my emotions that make it that way.
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f this is so, then the best thing is not to text him and await replies. Nor to ask how he is, nor to show any concern for him at all. It seems to me (and I am no expert, this is just my opinion) the best thing for you now might be to just really back off and detach as Lissie and others have suggested. It's just to back off, completely off.
You are absolutely right. I haven't in almost three years done so.
Sirprizeme, I am grateful for your post. Even though I dislike what you are going through..It helped put a little more clarity on mine.
Thank you very much for taking time to post to me. I truely believe you have a good perspective on things.
I, too, am sorry you are here. But it is nice to know we can gain a better understanding from each other.