After 3 long years, H is home

[GoingForward]

It seems like QT between you two is really going to have to be planned with your H's work schedule and 3 sons!

Yep, and the hardest thing is that there is ALWAYS a good chance that plans will fall through because of work. But I digress.

Well, in my eyes, here's more proof of my H's lack of effort towards spending QT together.

On Friday, he will be working day shift, so this means he will be free in the evening, and he doesn't have to go back into work until Saturday late afternoon.

MIL called yesterday while I was gone and left a message (which H heard - I know this because the message had been played before I got to it when I got home last night) saying that she would like the boys to visit her for a few hours Friday night. So after hearing that, I thought to myself, "Cool. Maybe H and I can go to dinner, a movie, or whatever. We'll see." Knowing he heard this message, I hoped maybe he thought the same thing. Wasn't expecting anything, just hoped.

Anyway, he called earlier this afternoon and said that a coworker might have an extra ticket to go to the A's game on Friday night. "If you're alright with it, I'd like to go if he asks me." There went my hope. Told him if he wanted to go, then it was fine. The kids weren't going to be home for the evening anyway. He asked where they were going, and I said, "Your mom called last night, remember? She said she wanted them to go over for a few hours on Friday night." He said, "Oh yeah, that's right. So is it cool if I go?"

Honestly, it's not cool. Did I not just talk to him about spending time together? Yet again, I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. He will be upset if I say I would rather he do something with me, and I screw myself by saying "go ahead and go" because I'm trying not to be "controlling". If I do say something, he will say to me, "I didn't say anything to you about going out with your friends."

Sucks. Totally sucks.