Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[lea123]

I spoke to him on the phone earlier today and its made me realise that I have to move on with my life now.

He was so matter of fact about the end of us, it was like he was talking about something mundane like what he had for dinner! Obviously his voice was so familiar to me, but from the stuff he was saying I realise that he's not the man I married and have loved all these years. The long and short of it is, he doesnt love me in the way he should love a wife. He cares for me because we've been together for so long but doesnt feel we have that connection anymore. He feels that he doesnt even want to try and get it back. He said that it wasnt something that happened overnight, it was a gradual thing and in hindsight he probably started feeling like this before we got married but didnt realise it at the time. I asked what changed in our relationship, he said just him. He had realised that he didnt want our relationship. He said he feels we've grown apart. He admitted we'd had some good times recently, like a holiday in Lanzarote and weekend away in London, but said he didnt feel the 'connection' as much as I did. Stupidly I said something like 'think of all the things we'll never do together again, like we'll never make love again' and he said that although he found me 'sexy', he wouldnt want to sleep with me because he didnt love me anymore.

I had tears running down my face when he said all this, but its what I needed to be able to say to myself enough's enough. I still can't quite believe I'm here-he was my best friend as well as my husband and having been together for 10 years he knows everything about me. Its hard to imagine a life without him by my side. But I must look to the future and concentrate on me for a bit.

I am a big believer in fate and that things happen for a reason, and feel that perhaps we both need to grow individually into the people we are meant to become. Having been with him since we were teenagers, I think he probably feels that the grass is greener elsewhere etc. Who knows, perhaps it is, perhaps it isn't. Maybe our paths will cross one day again.

Is this DBing or just giving up? Not too sure...

Lea
xxx