Worrying won't change tomorrow. It just takes the enjoyment out of today.
Those are some words to live by.
That part stood out to me too.
I think the best thing that will come out of all of this is that I will never take H or our R for granted again. I think I did that in the past and maybe he felt neglected.
If I am completely honest with myself, H was always more "into" the R than me (which I think is why I was so shocked he had an affair). He met my needs and I didn't do as good of a job of meeting his. OW came along, and at least on the surface, met his needs.
One of the things he likes to do is talk throughout the day. This used to drive me crazy (my previous job was EXTREMELY busy) and I would sometimes get upset with him if he would call me during the day. I felt he was just being needy. Now, I love it...I realize the he just like to touch base during the day. I can't even imagine why I didn't want him to call me!...just wrapped up in my own little world I guess.
