Isn't it just as true to say...if I am complete on my own, I wouldn't need anybody, therefore why have a relationship?
We all fell in love with someone. Now, I can sit across the table from the girl I am dating while eating dinner with her and her kids and she can smile at me in apreciation and caring for being there and helping prepare the meal, but the feeling I get from that smile is not the one I got from the other.
BH, It feels like your question is that of what have you lost that can't be replaced. Its the feeling inside you that you get from that certain person.
The feeling when you walk in the house and they smile and you know they love you and that love is a love you apreciate that you know...that (Jerry McGuire) you know, completes you and makes the things you do during the day (no matter what your proffession) alright. Its sharing your day with someone who cares and wants to know how you are doing.
Its remodeling a house and getting their opinion and input on everything you do.
Its not magic. We all loved our spouses and SOs for reasons only familiar to us. A smile from one person is not the same as a smile from someone else. Holding hands with one is not like someone else.
What am I not getting from someone else? Her counsel. Her opinions. Her smile. Her phone calls about her kids. Her laugh cooking dinner together. Her voice when I come home from a fire. Her sense of humor. Her being there when I call. Her calling me. Being there for the kids events when their dad wasn't. Her Kids. Thats what I am not getting from someone or somewhere else.
I don't like the taking either. Much prefer to be the giver.
When I say give and take, its about when the other needs support. We all have and have looked to our others for it. Unless you plan on being single, you will look again. I am talking about the relationship give and takes. When we are single we grind it out on our own. If you do that in a relationship you will be on your own. Agree?
