TK, I think I see where fig's coming from here though.
Yes, it hurts to lose someone. Yes, the rejection that goes with it hurts bad. No one's denying you that. The thing is, at least from my perspective, you still are finding a need unfilled somewhere that you've filled by pleasing someone else. So, what is it you like about pleasing someone else. What makes the feeling for this one woman different from others?
Why her?
What did you take from that experience that you aren't getting without her? How do you find those feelings for yourself, so that in the future you're only taking what's given, not what's there for the taking?
