your responses feed theirs...

they mirror us

you are not your daughter's best friend nor should you ever be
you are her parent

not saying you are doing this
just saying our job as a parent is much different than the job of a friend. I see a lot of parents worried that their kids won't like them
who cares
you are their parent
your job i sto teach them how to be a good grown up...it's nicer if they like us but not necessary

and the killing herself is a cry for help and not a school counselor Dar
a therapist
perferably one specializing in children

in MN there is the Alexander Center...
look into what place that is where you are

if you called and told them that they would get you an appointment asap

not anything to fool around with