Stronger - but still confused

[Snow White]

I am wondering if H will have a comment after reading the quotes I gave him last night because what it actually says about workplace AP's is:

1. Limit contact to business only. If you are serious about reestablishing safety in your M and sending clear signals to your AP, then you must become a polite but distant stranger to your AP. Going out for coffee, swapping stories about your kids, and trading office gossip are invitations to intimacy. Telephone strictly for business purposes, and if the OP steers the conversation into personal waters, say, "I'm sorry, but I don't want to discuss that."

2. Do not talk about your M with your AP.. If your ex-lover asks how your M is doing, you can demonstrate that there is a wall around the M that cannot be knocked down by answering, "I'm sorry, but it isn't appropriate for me to discuss that with you." Refusal to discuss your M tells your AP where the boundaries are. You won't be tempted to portray the M in a negative light to protect the feelings of the AP, who must understand that you now have a new commitment to the M."

As long as he continues working at his current place of employment there will be times when they speak, it may be because she calls his store for information or vice versa. That being said - he was speaking to her before for "something to do" and as mentioned above often office gossip. This is unneccessary.