For the guys with kids and a WAW

[hopeful4her]

WDID

Yes, we went to an I Promise seminar and learned a lot. We did go to counseling even before she said that we can try again. After we decided to retry, we stopped the sessions. Mistake. I know we should have kept on, but she was reluctant to keep going.

One could say that she didn't leave because she had been out of a job since last July. It was then the friendship started to really blossom. Stuck at home with nothing to do but think and be alone. And talk to him. He apperantly was very available to talk to her many times through out the day for extended lengths of time. So no income to get her own place, then November and her stroke. She felt trapped. Then she finally gets a job start of February.

I hope that she see's that I will not budge on the kids and she also realizes the expense of getting her own place. I have told her fairly recently that I am not looking for the rest of her life, just the next six months to really try and find out if we can figure it out. Counseling. Anything. But not while OM is in picture. Her response at the time was that we take it day by day.

The way she talks is that she has bought into the whole resiliant kid thing. I can only hope that she is recognizing the issues that are popping up with our little ones.

I have decided not to expose to the kids. Sorry, Puppy. Not sure what I'll say if they ask a direct question. I promised to always tell them the truth. Cross that bridge when I get there.