MMF, Thanks for that. I needed it. You are a wise man and I believe you are right also.
My W does not have a great R with her mother either. Her mother has always been somewhat unstable and never very loving toward W. I don't know the OW at all so I cannot make any comparisons but it is interesting.
I don't think that W is a lesbian either but I do think there is much turmoil in her.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford