He may intentionally or unintentionally screw around with the finances and then you are stressed there is more tension between you two and the kids suffer.

You can't squeese blood from a turnip. Pull in a few wise counselors through the elder and some reliable, godly ladies.

You may not like this but better to rent something afordable, cut financial ties to him and start healing and living a reduced stress life ASAP. No one knows what is going to happen to the Real Estate market but I am not real optimistic about our future economic health. (disclaimer ;\) I am not an economic advisor. You know I have to toss in my disclaimers \:\) ).

A number of proverbs speak to "godly contentment with little" versus having much with strife. Although scraping by to keep "owning" a home may not seem like "having much" a number of us can see the writing on the wall and are lovingly sharing that you should really get some good counsel to look at your options objectively, very objectively. (((cat)))

Committed2Him- "C2H"
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