For the guys with kids and a WAW

[CBK]

H4H - you know my feelings on exposing the A - I have decided to not tell anybody, like Jeff said, drives a bigger wedge. You will see on my strings that this was a huge delima for me - but in the end, I am opting to tell no one except two close friends whom W doesn't know and our counselors.

I can't control my W's actions, if she chooses to see OM, then there will be no "us" and I will continue to DB until the end. Possibly, if there is a D, even after that - but that is where I am mentally right now.

I am seeing my L today - like you, not to start the process, but to see what my legal issues might be.

CBK