Also a little later this evening Wife said her mom wants us to take her to "Voulpis". It was a bar we used to go to. BEFORE the A when we returned we would usually have sex. I told her that I don't want to go to Voulpis until we work things out...
H, Just my opinion...
A night at Voulpis sounds to me like a perfect chance at shaking things up a little. What would happen if it were the 'perfect' evening? What if you were to act 'As If' everything is how it should be. Flirt with her while you are there and on the way home. If things are going well up to that point, make a comment like "This night brought back some really good memories. Remember what we would normally do after getting back home from the restaurant?"
I don't know why you need to wait until everything is back to 'normal' to do something that should be normal. Yes it could turn into nothing and / or backfire, and I know I've gotten myself worked up with my own expectations, but I think it could be a good chance at moving forward.
