God believes I'm worth it...

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for some strange reason he thought he should have a say on who lives on the house, it came up because briefly he suggested I get a tenant (I myself had played with that idea) Much later on he was told a horror story of an xW who rented a room to a man who ended killing the kids, so that' when he said he should have a say on who rents a room, but we NEVER talked about what would happen if I were married again.

Lord, I may never get married again and he's going crazy for this?

But I see your point OT, that he very much could intrude about any other thing I'm not even thinking of. It is bad enough I have no privacy, he's told me he doubts he'll have a decent place to have the kids in the next 2yrs, meaning, he'll be staying at the house with them during his days, he does take them out but not all the time. I know it is his problem to find a place, but I'm thinking of my kids, where would he take them? there is his mom's but even there she is very picky sometimes and doesn't mind them over but won't be happy with stbx using her home like that.

OT, I really liked the loan idea, but honestly, this man can loose his marbles at any time (his own mom wonders how he hasn't lost this job already) and get kicked out of the dept. which is the only good job he's ever been able to find. No job no CS no way to pay the loan by myself, it will be hard enough surviving without CS let alone pay the sharks at the bank.