Then you need to become the kind of person he wants to talk to.
This is very good NC....but as usual not always applicable...I was that way with my H for a while and even though we were 'buddies', he still was in love with ow and it hurt me too much to see him go everytime after having had great talks and communication....
Sometimes this is so hard....isn't it ?!
Cinders - I agree totally.
I wouldn't want to have good communications with H. No Contact suits me down to the ground!! Like you I would find hearing about his day to day stuff painful. I would also start looking analysing what he was saying and that kind of thing.
Kikifree, on the other hand says she would like to have communications with her H but can’t seem to make it happen. If she wants to have better communications with her H she has to make each interaction positive and stop arguing about stuff.
It is difficult, it requires a lot of work but it is possible.
He does seem angry, his back is up and he is going to defend himself at every given opportunity. Kikifree needs to get to a place where he doesn’t feel the need to keep defending himself. If he feels heard and accepted then maybe he will feel safe enough to open his heart enough to hear her.
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
