and you shouldnt' anyway, the battle is his, he has to decide to get out that hole for himself, others' efforts to help him will not give him the resolve to fix himself.
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I am going to GAL and do a 180-I used to support him so much, I think I forgot who I was and what I needed from a marriage.
I'll tell you what I was told as I hanged to my cheating H for dear life as he lied and deceived me time and time again "you can't save a man from himself". I had become an enabler, making excuses for him, walking in eggshells, trying to be his cheerleader, his entertainer, taking care of all the unpleasantries: house work, kids' homwork, paying bills, etc etc. What didnt' I do???? even help him deal with crazy ow. Nothing I did made any difference, he just wanted to crawl into a hole and not face the consecuences of his actions nor had the will/strenght to fight for our family.
Sadly, sometimes we must let a loved one fall flat on their faces and see them fail, for only then will they learn-- specially if you, like me, have bent out of shape for so long trying to make their life easier and have forgotten to take care of yourself.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
