Drowning still - 23 years, feel like I am sinking

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just checking in man. was trying to follow your last thread and bam it was locked. i lost contact for a couple days. sorry i wasnt there for support. i'm glad you made it through your hell night. i agree i wouldnt tell w about lawyer but i would still go. like sandi said, this is not your wife. keep telling yourself that. that is the only way to detach. i'm the pot calling the kettle black i know, i am still struggling with my sitch, but remember backsliding always wipes out good progress. shame we have to find out hard way. now gal. i will join you and maybe in a year we can both talk at length of how we beat the odds and are in happier than ever marriages. lets shoot for that. let god help. take care