I refinanced, paid X from the refi and kept the house. I hoped we would reconcile and I did not find out about OM until after that was all done and she had already moved out (yes, I should have seen the signs but I didn't). Partly, I also believed it would be good to have the house for the kids to come to, for some stability related to the past.
If I had the chance to do it over again, I would have sold and started fresh in my own place.
(by the way, I wanted to "do the right thing" and offered to have her buy me out so she could keep the kids in their house. She said "no" and wouldn't you know it, after she move out, the first weekend the kids were with me, OM was spending the weekends at X's new place)
cat- God is still good, inspite of how things transpired regarding the house. Do weigh your options as BH suggested.
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