Cheers M, sounds a dangerous line and more a LRT TBH. I'd be interested in what others think about this approach ?
Other thing is, I was thinking along the lines of saying that I am prepared to work to save my marriage, but at the same time I won't beg or plead and am prepared to let my W go. This is kinda what my thinking was when I accepted it was over.
My intention is to then talk about co parenting and the rules around that, what happens further down the line. I.E. I would want joint custody and also to sell the house so that I have somewhere the boys can come to stay with me etc etc, laying my expectations out for my W to see. Not be unreasonable, but I think she has this misguided thinking around what happens if we split based on I, go, she gets house and I pay for it till X happens and that aint happening. As said before by someone, if She wants out the relationship and isn't prepared to work at it, she can get a bum deal too. I'll not leave myself short and not in a position to have the relationship with my kids that I want for her being a quitter.
I'm just typing fast though that might come out angry, I'm actually not. Just expressing my thought.
Anyone know the general legalities in the UK ? or any websites where I can find them ?
Well A, it probably is last resort. papers have been served on me and they are about to be answered. So it is a last resort technique I suppose..but don't you think it will make my W pause for just a second?? she is going to think that I am going in to save the M, just like I have in the last 6 sessions..I go in saying I want to learn to be friends after, think that will shake her a bit?? it should
She should also be shook when she gets the papers and they say 50/50 on the visitation w/D...she always wanted to be a mom..waited 41 years to be one, with this D she may only get to be a part time mom...
