Things were going well on the drive to her place. We were talking but she was somewhat quiet. I asked her if she was ok and she said that she was tired. She looked tired too.
We were talking about D5 and W brought up that D5 had been grumpy this week and asking for me a lot. Then out of nowhere W says to me "I know this is a sensitive subject but I wanted you to know that I didn't meet Sue (OW) until after I had to leave. I didn't even know she existed at the time, I didn't meet her until April." (April would have been 3 months after the bomb) She then tied this into our discussion of D5 by saying "Because D5 was being to so grumpy esspecially with Sue (OW) and she has being asking for us to live together again, I told her that I didn't know Sue (OW) when Mommy decided not to live with daddy anymore"
This really blindsided me. Why would she choose right then to tell me this? She all but admitted to the A. (Only she probably doesn't see it as an A.) I didn't know what to say and certainly didn't want to get into an argument about it, so I just said "uh-huh, I see" and hoped that she would change the subject which she did after a few long seconds of silence.
Probably the most bizzare thing is why would she say something like this to a 5 year old? Something liek that is completely beyond a 5 year old comprehension. Guilt?
The only explanation for this that I can come up with is that I've had to talk to her a lot lately because of the move and I've been very nice to her. Maybe she thinks I'm pressuring her and wanted to back me off. Who knows, maybe I have been pressuring her and not realizing it.
I ofcouse knew about OW but she has never eluded to their R before. I was never sure when the A started exactly but I guess I know now. However, if she left for the A or not, I still think that she left with the intention of looking for an A. I don't know that it matters that it started right away or not.
My head is spinning, I've got to get under control here. I would appreciate and thoughts on this.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
