My W does the exact same thing about me helping her. She won't ask for anything I used to do - like you said, practicing to be alone. Last night I put my hand out to help her out of her chair, been doing that for years - she stated "I can do this on my own" or something to that affect. She is detaching from the relationship in my viewpoint. With this being said, at least it gives us a baseline of when we do get a baby step. My W is still in the house - and it is TOUGH my brother. As my posters tell me, give her the space she needs, we need to detach.
As far as weight loss - I lost 30lbs in 4 weeks, have now lost 36 lbs. I am only a little over 6'2". I rarely eat. Get some protein drinks at the store or some protein bars. You need your physical strength as well as your mental strength if you are going to fight this battel and make yourself a better you. I think since March 17th, I have only eaten 4 complete dinners, last night, I actually had a mac and cheese (good old Trader Joes). But I am where you are, it is not that we are choosing not to eat, nothing tastes or sounds good. I have been using dinner time with W and kids as an opportunity to try and eat. I eat very little, but just having conversation is a good thing.
Take care,
CBK
CBK..I changed the way I was eating back in Oct. 07. I went on The ABS diet to lose some weight I had gained around my mid section and started working out. I'm eating 6 times a day but have cut out a lot of bad things. My diet is pretty high protein now. lots of fish, chicken and turkey and veggies. not many potato's, not many fried foods. I'm trying to up my cal. intake. I wanted to get to about 205 and hold but it looks like the stress of the sitch may be making me lose a little more than I want. I don't feel like I have lost my appetite. I'm not skipping meals..
it probably would not be on my mind as much if people around me did not comment about it..a lot of people are looking at me sort of surprised and concerned about the lost weight.
