Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[missmyfriend]

Imageer, I know this is post drive but right now I am saying a prayer for you and your W to have a drive that is not only pleasant but building a closeness between you.

Also, I would like to make a comment on something you said about the spouses reflecting on their choices. I do believe they ponder, often, about their choices and whether it is the correct one. Your wife, with her panic attacks, tells me that she is in a place where she is going against her intuition(?) and it is playing havoc on her health. My Ws blog leads me to believe she is trying to convince herself and others that she is in a better place and her choices were good ones. PHs H interactions and comments appear to be frequently trying to get her approval on his choices.

Whatever our spouses reasons, guilt plays a huge factor in this. Why would they feel guilty? I know that guilt is a result of doing something that goes against what a person feels is right or acceptable. If a person is confident in their choices, they have a tendency to not think twice about it and could care less if someone else disagrees.