Tater, Unfortunately, I'll be giving you more of what you don't want to hear. I'm the betrayed spouse and I cannot begin to describe what I went through after confirming H's A. It's been 7 months and I am still having a difficult time. I'm sure you've read a lot about these in the other threads.
I feel that you should work within your marriage to find solutions because the "solutions" outside of your marriage are NOT solutions at all. LL is right -- maybe you should find ways of getting closer to your W that don't involve being physical. Have you read DB or DR and listed your goals? They might help you get more focused.
