I think a major part of this is that her husband has not been a husband since he has returned (intimate).

I honestly am not sure how many men are like this when they return but this is the part that bugs me.

Maybe, Patti, write down all of your options with pros and cons and see if you come to some decisions.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19