I read the post regarding "why not cheat" and I have very mixed feelings about that. I struggle with guilt about having made a promise ten years ago on the day I married my wife, and am terrified of the impact to our 2 children.
However, having experienced over 6 months of involuntary abstinance, and with a ready opportunity (I am attracted to OW who has clearly expressed an attraction to me) I am very tempted. W and I have never been overly passionate, averaging once per week in the best of times, but this has gone on too long. I feel that the only reason that I have not taken the step is my fear of getting caught, which is a very real risk given that the OW is a friend of W.
I have raised my concerns, but W expresses her lack of desire as "just going through a difficult period," and believes that any affection from me is rooted only in my desire to have sex. I have reached a point of total frustration, and now constantly fantisize about OW to a point of distraction.
