On the other hand, when I am able to pull myself away and then come back to read/lurk/check-up on people, I find that the majority of the sitches are the same or have gotten worse. There are less than a handful of posters on here whose spouses have returned. Then there are those who do return, only to leave again. Doesn't do much for keeping my hope alive. I sometimes compare it to American Idol and think that every week, someone's gotta leave the show and wonder when it's going to be my turn. Am I just postponing the inevitable? Am I one of the strong ones who will make it through or am I only kidding myself?
I can not tell you how many times this has run through my mind...well except for the American Idol part (lol)! The only thing I have to add is that each situation is different and we LBSs have to ulimately do what is right for us...that could mean standing indefinately or it could just be until we have given it all we've got or it could be a specified amount of time. You may wake up one day and know your done or you may not...but regardless, we all just need to live each day to the fulliest by enjoying and appreciating the blessings that we do have in our lives...and I believe the rest will eventually fall into place. It can be difficult to take the focus off of what is missing in our lives especially in the beginning of all of this but it does get easier to focus on the positives over time.
Now when I start to whine and complain, please remind me that I posted that.
As far as your move goes, it would be easier if your H was around to help you make the choices, but in the end, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and empowerment that you did it all on your own. I hope your move goes well.
