Thanks FL for your perspective. That's a nice way of addressing "going through hell".

What I was considering as I thought about that statement was not only would you, but should you, go through hell. My feeling was the point of all this was to drag yourself out of hell and get yourself to a stable place, so that you can be the anchor outside of hell that your spouse can latch on to if they perhaps want help dragging themselves out. I guess running at 5 am would qualify as well, but I guess my answer would still be no, I'm not running at 5 am for anyone. \:\)

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That's a very different stance than the stereotypical "bitter divorcee". BTW, where does this stereotype come from?


I think if it's a stereotype that it's grounded in reality. There are a lot of bitter divorcees, the worst of which are those that did the walking away. I see more bitterness, I think, from those that did the walking...they never hesitate to inform anyone willing to listen what a dirty, rotten S.O.B. they left.

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer