thanks john: I will do just that:

Positives:
Very funny/sarcastic
WAS very dependable, always pays bills on time, etc
Great, involved, loving father
Attractive
smart -- like me, can talk about all sorts of issues



Negatives:
has past history with prostitutes and transvestites
I know he was a "player" before he met me
I'm the ONLY long-term relationship he has ever had
moved out of this mother's house at 27!
Has OCD/ADD issues -- super, super clean, can't sit still to even watch a movie, expects YOU to be as psycho-clean as he is
lied about pot dealer coming to our home for over a year
catch him in "little lies" and when I would says, "I will say anything to shut you up"
not great in bed -- I was never fully satisfied because he is closed to emotionally.
can't go to him for ANYTHING emotionally-related. He HATES feeling talks
totally abandoned me when I went through a couple of anxiety/depression phases
not affectionate -- only a VERY beginning of relationship
thinks people are "idiots", has an air of superiority that he is "perfect" and if people just did things like he did, the world would be better place


does this help paint a picture?