CBK, I agree with FaithfulH, don't say anything to your W about seeing a L. Just don't bring up any of that stuff about you protecting yourself, etc. FaithfulH is right, a L is more likely to push you to the next level in the procedure......for his own gain....not for what is good for your M. After all, he is there to make money, he is not a MC.
Speaking of MC, I may be wrong, but I still believe that seeing a C together is not beneficial to the two of you right now. It seems to keep the hurt open and raw between you. It doesn't seem that anything positive is coming from these sessions. She is too deep in her own fantasy world to get through to her right now. A lot of prayer and time (and a miracle thrown in wouldn't hurt)is about what you have to cling to at this moment. However, things do change and they can change suddenly. We never know what the next day may hold for any of us......so again, I am trying to get you to see things realistically, but still tell you not to give up hope yet. Like I said, even if she divorces you......there can still be hope until she is actually married to another.
Stop thinking of her as the wife you had. Think of her as somebody different in your home. B/c that is what she is at this time. I know this all seems so insane.........it is insane! It is like people go off the deep end. Call it the "times that we live in" or MLC or whatever.....but this board if packed full of stories just like yours. Just think what it is like all over the world. So sad, isn't it?
I'm thinking of you this morning, as I go off to work. I know you have so much on your mind......I don't know how you are able to do your own job dealing with this at home.
You have lots of people pulling for you, remember that. There are prayers going up. Keep the faith.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
