Enjoying my life!!!

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Thanks Grace...but really this has all been the last straw for me....I dont know that I have ever felt this way before. My Daughter sent her dad an email last night. She let he know that she was mad at him. She told him that she did not want to talk to him in the mornings or stay the weekend with him until he figured out what he did wrong. She told him that she did not like the OW and that a friend of hers told her that she saw her dad with a woman that wasnt her mom and that the lady was ugly...(I didnt tell her what to write, but that was funny) anyway, she let him know that he had hurt her,her bro and me...she told him that she didnt want him going with the OW...

OK, he replyed to that last night. He said something like this "Im sorry you are mad at daddy. Daddy had all intentions to come see you and brother, but when your mother saw me she called me and fussed me out and it upset me. I shouldnt have taken it out on you and your brother. I understand and you can talk to me anytime and you havent even given her a chance. I know with time your feelings will change.

UGH! He was trying to blame ME. ME! My daughter was in the car when I talked to him and she knows exactly what I said! I was furious that he tried to turn it on me...I wasnt ugly on the phone, the statement i made to him was "so, you could have gotten the kids tonight?" He said "I could have". It was alost 6pm and he had drove for 3 hours. He did not call me to make arrangements for getting them. He was upset because he was caught! It gave him no reason to not say "I was planning on it".

I cant believe him....my daughter replyed to his email this morning...it was short and too the point and there was no couching from me...she wrote...daddy i was with mama and she did not fuss you out and infact we have given her a bunch of chances I still do not want to stay with you this weekend.

She is smart, she said "mama, you didnt fuss him out". Even the text I sent him wasnt anything that should have upset him unless he was GUILTY of doing so....

And Grace, I did send him an email telling him how disappointed I was for our kids. I told him a few other choice words too. I shouldnt have, but I was angry. I wasnt worried anymore about watching my words to him. If he is going to come back, it doesnt matter what I say to him, so I am going to start telling him my feelings from now on. All of this has happened before and he chooses to come back....matter of fact, his email to our daughter, those words have come out of his mouth to her before.

My kids did not answer the phone this morning. He then called my cell phone and left a message. "please tell the kids good morning and I love them".

I told them his message.

Grace, I will let him be until he is willing or able to go the distance to get me back...I dont see it happening anytime soon. This has gone on with him going back and forth since Dec 06. At least once a month. I have been so strong and waited this long....there comes a point when enough is enough though.