Armour plated, as the rocks get thrown, pick em up and throw em back.
This is when you need your strength and your wits about you, no time for letting people off with things, this legal stuff requires your full attention. Be one step ahead of the game, start thinking ahead, think of the future without H in it, just you and your 3 kids, you now need to enter survival mode. Think ambitiously.
You are on show, show your best, the strong, self motivated, self worth Alison that will do everything in her power to provide for your self and your kids - believe me it is what it is like.
I am nearly at the end of a two year battle, I am strong and see it as a challenge, a business deal that my future depends on. I am sad of course that h chose to remove me from his good past and place me in a world where he didn't exist but you know what there are many, many lovely people in my world that love me and want to be with me, I wish I could say the same for H.
He is not the strong person he was, he has lost friends, he family, plenty of money, and his position at work is in a mess. At the end of this 2 year battle he is a sad, lonely man. I used to feel sorry for him, but not anymore, he has had opportunity after opportunity to sort this mess out, he isn't ready and doesn't have the strength, he continues to excuse his behaviour.
Alison, you are not a failure, you have thought through your decision - You have shown stregth not weakness.
One thing I will say - when H petitioned me for my unreasonable behaviour I was soooooo hurt, he couldn't wait to hurt me, he knew what he was doing when he wrote the words he used. At least you have removed this opportunity from your H by agreeing to the D.
Look after yourself, enjoy the holiday weekend, do something nice, something for you.
