Lea, I hate that you find yourself here.

This is going to sound counter-intuitive, confusing, and hurtful, but... maybe... you need to let him go.

Here's the thing - fighting him now may just be counterproductive. "Talking sense" to him, may just push him away.

Check the book. It will give you some insight.

Let him go, and he may come back to you.

M 43
S14 S13 D11 D7
Divorce final: Jan 2009
Making it up as I go....