I don't think it's over until both parties are finished. I've also been told that one day I'll wake up and just know, but I wonder if that only applies to R's, not to M's. I know I'm fully capable of moving on, but I feel like it will never truly be over - a part of me will always hold on to our M and what we had. I also think that for the one who is still holding on that it probably takes a major event - like us meeting someone else or god forbid seeing H with new wife and/or family to really make it over that final hill to move on. But it's up to us to make our way up the hill first.
As for giving up... Maybe we don't ever give up. Hold on until we are given no choice but to ACCEPT our S's decision, rather than give up. My dad has wanted whatever is going to happen with H and I to be resolved quickly since the beginning of this, even if it meant D. He recently told me that if I know what I want, then I should go for it, no matter what. He also said that you can't put a time limit on things like this, which was really surprising to hear coming from him. We give ourselves timelines to help us make it through. But come next year, you may find that standing is effortless and time passes quickly. You may start to see small changes in your H. It's too soon to say, so just keep taking it one day at a time. Don't feel pressured by anyone to decide what is best for you and your family. Only you know.
