I think it's thoughtful and prudent that you figure out where the boundaries are for you guys. That said, I wouldn't go off and plan a summer's worth of activities, but maybe just one or two. Loved, loved, loved your answer to the freedom question! As you said, you are a real and true new Mink. Keep that and you'll both be happier.
Cheers to the Minks!!
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09