WAW...now LBS part III

[christarn]

JAW~ One thing I have learned throughout all of this(over a year into it) 48 hour rule! If you are thinking of any decision making, wait a minimum of 48 hours to let any anger or other emotion have time to settle.

Most of the time, I believe, our S's are looking for a reaction from us. When put in a specific situation the best reaction, is no reaction....then watch their reaction!!! They will be like...WTF!!!! Like her being BFF with the chick you had an afair with...and all of them hanging out, like nothing happened...she's doing it to P#ss you off. So the best thing, IMHO, for you to do, would be do nothing. Take the high road, be the better person, and say something along the lines of " I'm really glad our kids and so n so's get along so great, that's awesome! I bet that would make her jaw drop to the floor! I know that is extremely hard to do. But don't let her fuel your emotions, which she is doing.

As for hanging out with her tonight, if you need some time away, after recent events, simply say, something has come up and I need to reschedule....totally your call. But I would deffinetly use reschedule....you don't want to loose your opprotunity!

I don't think she is putting the friendship ahead of your R/M. I think she is acting/reacting out of hurt/anger/resentment, and she probably doesn't know what to do. She regained her trust in you and even though the two of you were simply talking...that trust was violated. It hurt her. I must say though, I am surprised she isn't mad at the OW too....I am a woman, and if it were me, I'd be kickin you and the OW and both of your arses!!! She's emotionally devistated, it's going to take a ton of time and a ton of patience.

Hope it gets better for you
Stay strong!
hugs,
Christarn