Drowning still - 23 years, feel like I am sinking

[CBK]

Oh yea:

9) Don't snoop, do everthing humanly possible not to snoop. It has hurt me more than has helped me - snooping means I am not detaching, snooping means I don't trust. I want to say everytime I snoop, I will donate $100 to the abused spouse shelter in our area - I think I will make that a promise to myself. And if I make it a year without snooping, I will still donate money to the shelter!