"Is it a coincidence that the rate of divorce amongst second marriages is higher than 1st, and even higher when they were created from adultery???"
Julie is spot on here Shoe! Good advice! Who's really the one moving on here? He seems to keep repeating his mistakes. Three marriages in 12 years? When's he coming up for air?
Glad to hear your cat is better. About your new friend.. the best policy is to be honest with him and let him know about any trust issues you have. I'm sure he'll understand. It's natural for us to feel that way after what we have been through.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
first off thank you Trip, Bighands and Fig for going over to the newcomers thread I told you about. I believe you were all a big help! Tom, thanks for stopping by, I always apprecciate your advice and thoughts!
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
No way.I am pooped. Month end closing and going over financial reports. I can barely lift my beer
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
yep chinese.. although I have not had that in a few years so my tummy is protesting
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
So I have been doing some thinking. The guy I have been seeing is not the one for me. He makes me frustrated more than he makes me happy. I want to be happy all the time. or most of it anyway. We come from differant backgrounds. I enjoy wine tasting, nice places to eat, the beach, San Fran, etc. He does not enjoy any of that. I also like to eat healthy. No greasy food, no fast food, etc. He does. At least my X and I were on the same page with all that stuff. at one point I told myself to just settle for this guy because I know in my heart he is a good guy, loves me to pieces and is faithful. Do I just settle for safe?
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Never settle if that is what you feel like you are doing. This must so tough for you to come to that decision because it is easy to be safe and to feel comfortable. But if you are frustrated with him and have tried to work on that than maybe it is best to cut him loose. Easier said than done, I am sure.
I can barely lift my beer 
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