I asked her this morning if I had the all-clear to start planning stuff for the summer, etc (that's always been my thing, not hers). She said yes, please do. I said, it's not going to freak you out? She said no, I am back, so I guess not.
I know some would say I was "asking permission", which is wussy behaviour - but it is important to know where the boundaries are, and that is why I am doing it.
As we drove to work, she said "are you going to miss losing your new-found freedom?". I said "no, because I haven't lost it". "Good answer", she smiled.
Last night she said if she started to backslide, to challenge her on it. I said, you got a deal, lady!
So, we are communicating really well. And we have both pledged not to bring up the past or to let the past affect the present or future. That is really exciting.
