Today she told me I was family to her and that she was willing to work on our issues together-the pain we caused each other. But, ONLY if I accept that we are over forever and that she is in love deeply with her affair.

Have no idea how to respond to that.

She also claims that the affair has known everything we have done together over the last year and that she was trying to "find" me while they were screwing each other.

Me-36
W-36, waw, mlc and ea.
Together 17 yrs
Married 16 yrs
Bomb 12/21/06
Asked about counseling together 8.07
doesn't believe in what i believe in and doesn't know how to fix this 11.07
Demanded we sell the house 2.08
Admitted affair 4.08