As important as the R with your H is, and his ongoing struggle to figure things out, your health is even more important. You (and he) both need to realize this, and set aside those issues, to the extent possible. He needs to be staying home and taking care of YOU. You have so much on your plate. Do not hesitate to ask him. He can have his alone time some other time. What he is asking of you right now is too much, it's too selfish. I might even be the case that if he focuses on your health specifically, and on someone other than himself generally, it would be good for his whole outlook on life and your R.
I too want to know more about the internal bleeding. Is it an ulcer?
You have been overburdened and need a break (thats "NEED", not "want", not "could use"). Your H is the right man for the job. He needs to step up here, and you can't be fearful of asking him to do it because of some notion that you may be hurting your DBing efforts.
I continue to think about you every day (even though I don't post that much). Get yourself better. I think you are such a naturally giving person that what seems to you to be selfish would rank pretty low on my selfish scale. Be selfish!
