Pleased the kids rallied round for you- see they can do caring and thoughtful. I am not suprized you H is a little wary, it had been a turn around and a roller coaster (as it is for most of us) at least it will give you time to really absorb your decision and feelings and the longer no contact time you have just to get your feelings under control hopefully the less traumatic the financials will be. Listen to Jack he's a good man.
Am I a failure? I've been divorced for 9 months and I am still battling it. I'm going back to court Allison because I am sick of his inability to comprehend DIVORCE.
I am not a failure. I am a survivor.
You are not a failure.....you are a survivor!
Do not ever EVER be ashamed for what you had to endure trying to save your marriage Allison. NEVER!
You step up to the plate now and be the best damn ALLISON EVER!!!
Allison,
I, like Jeanette, have been divorced for 9 months. H still is not happy and still is blaming me for all his problems. I talked to my doctor about H's actions today and he said something about H having control issues. They are the screwed up one's not us. WE have spent this time working on improving us. What have they been working on??
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I too picked up the book because it said "DIVORCE BUSTING..." and as you (And many other people) thought this was a "plan" or idea or some huge SECRET to fixing the mess....This wasn't the only book I read...looking seeking craving for the answer...and I like you am looking at the D.
What I have found instead was that the people on this board USE the tools daily - and I have watched through reading their growth as people. The dignity and self respect that they have gained BACK because they HAVE used the DB principles. Also--the fundamentals of Michelles book are the basis of EVERY SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE book...the same things we teach our kids in dating. 1)dont chase 2)find yourself 3)knowone can make you happy only you can 4)the men like to pursue-let them puruse you
And you are right -- this is hard-- you are in the midst of hell..and I am so so sorry.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
