I'm so glad you've let us know what's going on for you. I'm also glad that h. stayed with you last night! It's a relief for me to know that you were not alone.
Most people who are looking for fellow local DB'ers post in the "just for fun" area of the boards. Start up a thread with your location in the title. If you don't get a good response, I'd post something in "newcomers" -- seems as though most folks take a gander there on a regular basis. Try not to worry about taking up too much bandwidth, my friend. I'm guessing there is more than one kindred spirit out there who will be grateful for the opportunity to meet.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.