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[kolle]

D4 comes to me (whole family is in the room)
"Mommy only joked when she told you she doesn't love you anymore. Ask her"
"No my love, she did not joke. She wants a divorce"
"What is that?"
"She went to the court to ask the Judge to tell me to move out of the house because she does not want to live here anymore."
"What is a Judge?"
"An important man who works for the government and decides what happens to people, for instance, he sends criminals to jail"
"Are you going to jail, Daddy?"
"No my love, the Judge will just tell me to move out of the house"
"Why?"
"Because Mommy does not want me to live here anymore"
D7 now takes over the conversation: "Mommy, why don't you want Dad to live yhere anymore?"
My W says: "Daddy and me can not live together anymore."
I say: "That is a demonic lie! There is a big difference between can not and want not! Don't lie to the kids! We can have a fantastic love relationship, you just don't want to! I LOVE YOU!"
D7 Goes histerical.
S16 says "Dad you are EVIL! YOU DID THAT ON PURPOSE!"

God knows I did not. I want to protect my kids from pain, but I am NOT prepared to lie to them or to have them lied to.
I WILL NOT ALLOW the lie that this D is unavoidable to live in our home! I WILL NOT ALLOW MY KIDS TO THINK THAT I HAVE ANY PART IN THIS D!

Yes, I am guilty because I helped to bring my W to the crossroad. But the A with the OM, The D were her choices. She could just as well have chosen the other road.

Sometimes it is necessary to give a kid an injection to prevent greater pain later on.

God knows, it breaks my heart. I just hope that S16 will one day understand.