Tough Love through a Letter-Advice needed

[Nutty Chick]

Nutty,
Yeah I agree that it would just be easier to not see my H right now

I disagree Tipper. The HARD thing for you to do would be to not see him.

It is obvious that you miss him dreadfully.

However, I allready havent seen him for over two months and it would be nice to catch up with him. We both have been very distant with each other since he last left and I have found out that he is doing a little bit of everything right now. He has seen me go out and GAL and so now instead of sitting at the bar every night, he is now in a band and has joined the Kiwana's club and has volunteered to be the project manager of a large golf tournament and is remodeling his new house he is going to rent out next month.

I have a feeling that he will back out as usual.
TIPPER

You must do what you feel best.

My thoughts are: If he is starting to miss you, I would just encourage him to linger in that feeling for a little longer.

Let him know that you are not there at his beck and call.

I will probably get shot down in flames for being sexist but men like the thrill of the chase. They like to work hard for what they get. He will value you more if he has to work hard to get a chance to ‘catch up’ with you.

It just strikes me as odd that after 2 months no contact he texts to say he would like to ‘turn back the clock’ and would like to ‘meet up’. I suppose what I am feeling is that his words and actions do not match up. If he was missing you and wanted to see you, why wouldn’t he call round to take the dog out while you were in?

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Nutty.