My friend. You don't know how glad I was to see your post on my thread. I'm so glad you are back and that you are doing so much better. As you may have read, my sitch is still very ugly, but I think there is a small thaw in the ice, but I'm not getting overconfident. I still have a long way to go, as do we all, it seems.
I'm meeting w/ my L tomorrow to discuss what information we'll send to the parenting evaluator and like you, I'm not throwing any stones. In fact, I'm not going to use any of the affair material, but instead focus on how I am a good father and deserving of equal time w/ my D. Your sitch will play out as well.
Concerning the sexual abuse charge, my W floated that one out w/ the parenting evaluator as well. He told her directly that if she is concerned, she needs to file w/ CPS. However, if these charges are proved to be false and she is drumming them up to try and discredit me, they will only work against her. After W met w/ the parenting evaluator and heard this, she immediately dropped all talk of sexual abuse. In your case, either someone will tell your W the same thing or the courts will see they are baseless charges and it will work for you.
You wrote this about the domestic violence worker:
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I don't know why, but I feel encouraged, understood. I feel very hopeful that I will get my kids back. It's nothing she says - her job prohibits her from advising me in any way. It's just .. a feeling I get.
I get the same exact feeling from my meetings w/ the parenting evaluator. He can't pick a side, but what he says and how he says it gives me great hope that this process will work out correctly.
I'm sorry your finances are stretched. I too am in a bit of financial red ink and I need to get the house on the market and moved to get me close to back to even. W talks tough about selling the house (which is a must now due to all the legal bills), but she won't act when I've sent realtors to her. She's not meeting w/ them to try and narrow one down to sell the property.
All of this will work out and the system will see what is right. The problem for the system is it is so painfully slow. I hate the waiting, but in the long run, I'll be better for it as will my D. You and your kids will do the same.
You asked, could I wait 3 years? Maybe you can. Maybe I can too. I don't know and won't until we travel down this road a bit longer.
Keep being the man. I'm so glad to see you are in better spirits and back on the board.
