rop, I think it all has to do with us GALing and having them see the changes in us are not temporary. We need to show them how exciting and interesting we really are. That life will indeed be different and better than before.
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In her post, she had mentioned the things that she was getting from OM that she was craving. The things he was telling her. But at the same time, she says to say these things to WW. I tried this, and it backfired. I became smothering. I don't think she wanted to hear these things from me. Maybe I over did it. Not sure.
This is good and so you know what your W wants. And she doesn't want you to smother her so she is really communicating with you which is great. I would try to work on the things she wants and just avoid the smothering!
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What do you think, WDID? All sorts of things I would like to tell WW but don't. It looks like it comes off as pursuing.
I think you should save the talking and just work on actions and GAL to help you achieve your goals.
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I need to do the things to GAL. I haven't done enough.
That sounds good!
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I'm giving too much. Maybe too nice. I'll back off a bit.
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That sounds good, too. I think sometimes our spouses see a lot of niceness as being a doormat or weak (at least that is my experience). Karen
