Thanks SF. I need to take the time and read your sitch. I'm so sorry you have to deal with your H leaving again. I can only imagine how difficult it must be.
My XH drank/partied when we were dating, but then he was 25. That behavior is considered normal. He pretty much stopped drinking when our son was born except for the occasional beer now and then or when we went to a wedding, etc.
Starting in July '06, he started going out with kids from work--23-25 year olds and drinking alot, so much so that he didn't come home at night. One time last summer he said to me, "I think I need to go to AA." I was kind of surprised. I figured he drank on the weekends, but was surprised to learn that he had been drinking every night, not to the point of getting drunk every night, but drinking more than a couple of beers. I offered to go with him if he wanted to go, but he never mentioned it again.
Just in the last two-three weeks, he's called me late at night when he's been drinking and does not hide the fact that he's been drinking and even tells me how "wasted" he is. I was kind of surprised about it on Sunday--he gets up at 6am for work, so I wasn't expecting him to be drunk at 10:30pm. And before he would drink with friends, kind of a party atmosphere. Now, he drinks alone, sitting in his room. It even sounds depressing. And so unhealthy--I worry about him, but I know there is nothing I can do to help him until he wants to help himself. Except pray, and I do that alot.
I hope positive things start to happen for you and your H and he is starting to come out of his MLC. Thanks again for your reply.
