Holy hell, I come to check in on you AmyC and I read all this....
You just let me know if you need this down south Jew boy to go off Old Testament style on any of these folks......
I got your back...........
Hang in there Amy, your road gets less bumpy each passing day. Before you know it, it will be like walking on clouds.
I know it is not necessarily your style, but there is a great book by Rabbi Harold Kushner that I would love to send you.....
One quote from it... .
Quote:
"Life is not a trap set for us by God, so that He can condemn us for failing. Life is not a spelling bee, where no matter how many words you have gotten right, if you make one mistake you are disqualified. Life is more like a baseball game, where even the best team loses one-third of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliance. Our goal is not to go all year without ever losing a game. Our goal is to win more games than we lose, and if we can do that consistently enough, then when the end comes, we will have won it all." God does not expect us to be perfect as this is not part of human nature. While the guilt and shame that haunt us as part of sin are normal consequences of our sins, it is functional to know we are in error.
Hehehehe.....you go AmyC with your BAD self!!!!!! Don't you love it when people just jump in and don't really have a clue what is going on and then just assume everything?!
My 2 cents: A very scholarly theologian pastor explained to me that the bible, the word, allows us to D. The catch is,(we're not supposed to get remarried, once M always M.)
Love,
COG
Cog,
I looked but couldn't find on ongoing thread of yours..... so sorry Amy for the hijack...
I think knowing this fact all along has haunted me in some way. It is heartbreaking to think that I may never share my life and walk in those twilight years with a husband by my side. It brings to the surface all sorts of sadness and well, fear kinda encompasses most of the emotion. Coming to terms with that has been an uphill battle and continues to be one.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
I think knowing this fact all along has haunted me in some way. It is heartbreaking to think that I may never share my life and walk in those twilight years with a husband by my side. It brings to the surface all sorts of sadness and well, fear kinda encompasses most of the emotion. Coming to terms with that has been an uphill battle and continues to be one.
I feel your pain. I think our goal should be to find peace, joy, and fulfillment in our lives as a "single" being, whether we are legally M or single. Once we have achieved that, having a mate at your side may not be as important to survival as it seems right now. In fact, some find out that being single is the best gift they've ever given themselves.
Not downplaying the importance of M reconciliation, just noting the silver lining.
God Bless,
COG
PS I don't have an active thread anymore. There doesn't seem to be a topic section that fits. The M and life are doing well though.
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
I disagree that left behind spouses, who's exes refuse to return, have to stay alone forever. I just want to put that out there. That would be like telling my husband had I never repented and never tried to return he had to remain alone the rest of his life. BS!
If the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave, the believing spouse is no longer bound. It's in the Book. 1 Corinthians 7, I think.
Now granted, I would try to hold onto the part of that scripture that says the unbelieving spouse is set apart (made holy) by the believing spouse but the bible does not tell us that we have to hold onto that to the point it becomes unhealthy. The best thing is to go to God with these issues. Take them to the Cross. Then follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as opposed to any of our interpretations of the Word.
Amy, you are doing so well with all this back and forth on your thread. It's unnecessary for others blatant comments on here when they don't know you as well as some do.
NC, Amy's full story is on one of my threads. I have tried looking in the archives to re-read all I've written and how I've upset alot here with my stubborness, but I can't find any of mine in archives. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong place though. Let me know if you find it.
[quote=COG] My 2 cents: A very scholarly theologian pastor explained to me that the bible, the word, allows us to D. The catch is,(we're not supposed to get remarried, once M always M.)
Love,
COG
Do we have chapter and verse for this? It's a huge thing to say without scriptural back -up.
Do we have chapter and verse for this? It's a huge thing to say without scriptural back -up.
Oh, there's plenty but I'm not starting that debate. Just go to this web page NIV Bible and type in the word "divorce". You'll find all you need to know about it.
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The best thing is to go to God with these issues. Take them to the Cross. Then follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as opposed to any of our interpretations of the Word.
Thats right! I agree. The main point I was trying to make earlier is that I think we'll make a much better partner for that future person if we become whole, healthy and okay as an individual, alone, by ourselves, first.
Okay bye
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
[quote=COG] My 2 cents: A very scholarly theologian pastor explained to me that the bible, the word, allows us to D. The catch is,(we're not supposed to get remarried, once M always M.)
Love,
COG
Do we have chapter and verse for this? It's a huge thing to say without scriptural back -up.
Sorry Amy can't find Cogs thread.
1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-11 10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
I am not sure there is any other way to take the written word except for what it is... for me anyway. I honestly can't say if being a flesh and blood human will enable me to follow the scripture and become an old spinster lady.... but it looks as tho that's the path He says I am to walk. I must admit this kind of obedience requires a sacrifice I cannot follow of my own free will.... It's gonna take Jesus walking with me side by side and probably physically holding my head up so my eyes stay trained toward Heaven.
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Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
