is he still taking meds? he sounds just like my stbx, who is breaking up the M because he feels detached and empty inside, thus, the first person in his line of vision gets it:me. He is horribly depressed and suffers from anxiety and has decided there is gap between us, doesn't know how to fix it and that he'll be better off alone.
Please don't believe anything he says (about the M, how you are now, etc etc) , it is his depression trying to make sense of that void he's got, it is not easy to admit to depression, so now he's trying to cut you off from his life thinking this will solve all his problems, which won't happen.
Of course both of you chanced! it'd be horribly unnatural if after 10yrs you handn't changed a bit, there is nothing wrong with that.
A good book to read is "Talking to Depression" about people with loved ones who are depressed, it will help you understand how he is feeling.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
