He had stopped the allotment when he was in one of his dark, pity party moods. I gave him several opportunities to recant and he wouldn't so I went to his chain of command. According to AR608-99, he doesn't have to give me a dime while I'm living in govt housing. I said, "you mean you can allow an NCO to not feed his family and get away with it?? WTF?! So I went to victim advocacy and legal, caused a fuss and they (command) had a talk with him (probably, "do what you can to shut her up"). I don't want to move out of the house until school is out. Then I understand I get the BAH diff and formal child support, etc.
So technically, he can get away with it but MORALLY and ETHICALLY? I just don't get it. He says that he has so little money to begin with and can't spare to run two households. Oh really? Well, ya should've thought of that before you decided to run around and abandon your family. I always told him (when he'd threaten to leave) that he better think long and hard about it because it was much cheaper to keep me than to get rid of me. I have a close friend who is a SGT MJR and he would love the opportunity to rip my husband's stripes right off of his uniform because he can't believe that an NCO can behave this way towards his family. Speaks volumes about his integrity (or lack thereof)
What I think he's been trying to do is smoke me out and force me to go to work because he knows I qualify for spousal support (alimony). But if I start working, I don't. Our youngest is special needs and shouldn't be in daycare. Not to mention that the money I made would primarily go to daycare and after school care and very little would actually affect the budget. He knows my passion about being an available, stay at home mom.
